"It is a risk to love. What if it doesn’t work out? Ah, but what if it does."
Let go of how people should act and what people should do. This step is all about managing expectations. Too often, we have very specific ideas of how people should act and what people should do, and then we get annoyed when they fail to live up to our expectations. “Common standards of decency,” we say. While expecting others to be fundamentally decent is a worthy idea, it can cause real annoyance and, sometimes, unhappiness. There’s another way to do it:
Set low expectations. Don’t lose faith in humanity, but don’t expect people to wow you with their manners, their thoughtfulness, their speech. When you don’t expect a lot from others to begin with, you appreciate it more when they do. Setting reasonable expectations is a major key to being less annoyed.
Ask yourself — what’s in it for me? ”What do I get out of being annoyed?” If you think about it, it’s probably not all that much. Maybe you feel superior to the other person. But do you really want your judgment of who you are to derive from what other people do, or what you do? Your identity will be a lot stronger if you base it off of what you do, not what others do.
Blastin this on repeat.